Two more quick points. First, let me clarify why so many women, including feminist bloggers, are annoyed at the Sandberg book.
Sandberg's advice is for women who want the CEO position and for that small group of people, her advice might be very useful. I think. I do think that anyone who achieves those high level of power, man or woman, has had the benefit of luck and privilege, and that particular road to success might not help anyone else. Books by male CEOs aren't that useful either.
The problem with Sandberg's book is that her particular formula for success (work super hard, don't complain, dream big, whatever) is actually terrible advice for everyone else. For people who want a good job, but not the highest job, they should do the exact opposite. They should get a nursing or a pharmacy degree, instead of a PhD. They should become teachers, not lawyers. They should think smaller.
I also think that a lot of feminist writers find it disturbing to rally behind a fabulously rich and privileged woman.
Second, I wanted to point to an article by Hanna Rosin in Slate.