Not having a very good fall now, am I?
The best thing to do when facing a loss is not to quibble or blame. But to look for ways to improve. And beat the crap out of them next time. Okay, that's my job.
But I don't have as much to lose as some others. I can afford to be high minded. Read Andrew Sullivan today, especially his analysis of the devasting loss in this election for gay marriage. He's being a real champ about it.
The dignity of our lives and our relationships as gay people is not dependent on heterosexual approval or tolerance. Our dignity exists regardless of their fear. We have something invaluable in this struggle: the knowledge that we are in the right, that our loves are as deep and as powerful and as God-given as their loves, that our relationships truly are bonds of faith and hope that are worthy, in God's eyes and our own, of equal respect. Being gay is a blessing.